What does friendship mean to you? To me it means loyal companionship. Somebody who is there for you through thick and thin. Somebody who has your back forever and always. Friends are humans who are there for you through times of adversity. A friend can come in all different shapes and sizes.
”So no one told you life was gonna be this way, your job’s a joke, you’re broke, your love life’s DOA. It’s like you’re always stuck in second gear. When it hasn’t been your day, your week, your month or even your year!“ But they’ll be there for you…..
We don’t have the opportunity to choose our family. They are your blood or as good as. However, we do have the opportunity to choose who we want our friends to be. They can come and go and often enough nothing changes. They are like stars, you may not see them all the time, but they’ll always be there! For you….
You don’t need a million. Just 1,2 or 3 good ones. Close ones, the type that will be there for you through whatever life throws your way. Do you know who your friends are?
What characteristics should a friend have? I’ve carried out some research and this is the list of traits we have agreed on. They should be:
- Have no filter
- Empower you to be you
- Good advice givers
- Able to give you a friendly slap in the face when you’re in the wrong
- Supportive and encourage you and your interests
- Be there for you
- A good listener
- Able to share the weight of your problems
- Able to let you be you, sometimes we need space
- Able to check in “How are you?”
- Ready to leave their comfort zone from time to time
- Free enough to share your interests and hobbies
- Respectful of you and your path
- Humorous and makes you laugh
These are all reciprocal traits, not one way, you have to be a good friend to attract a good friend. I have a good few that share all of these traits. Do you?
We all live intense busy lives. You might be free one day whilst your friend is snowed under. Don’t hold a grudge, just be there for each eachother, whenever you can. Some of us are only young, some of us might not even have met a true friend yet.
Life is a journey and it is very short. Surround yourself with good people and make it count.
Remember, none of us get out of this crazy world alive.